Online discussions of
men as victims of typically gendered types of violence (sexual,
domestic) tend to take three forms, the first of which I won't cover
in this essay1:
Dismissive jokes, genuine attempts to grapple with the subject (these
typically belong to established, women feminists), and a great deal
of bluster from so-called MRAs (men's rights activists). I want to be
clear, MRAs are motivated not by a concern for male survivors of
violence, but by a desire to roll back and minimise the gains made by
women in these areas, and to derail useful feminist discussion of
rape and other violence.
I do want to make the
case, however, that our understanding of how men fit in to
conceptions of gendered violence is open to improvement. We need to
accept that our understanding of the scale of the problem, and our
conceptualisation of it, may be in a very poor state; that properly
conceptualising male victims in our narratives may allow for greater
clarity in our understanding of sexual and domestic violence in
general; and that improving the state of our knowledge may result in
subtle changes in our discussions of the subject in general.
A quick perusal of the
internet will show how feminists, confronted by the disingenuous
arguments of MRAs, are forced to argue in favour of basic and
reasonable positions: the right of women to exclude men in certain
arenas such as refuges, the right to discuss their own experiences.
In doing so, they are forced to follow a tight line between
ceding those basic, reasonable positions or dismissing the
possibility that the male experience in general may be of relevance.
The simplest position
is to regard male victims as anomalous and rare. Just as straight
white men occasionally murder one another in freak, random
occurrences, as a result of fits of anger, passion or insanity, so do
they sometimes rape one another, outside of any oppressive structures
of power and dominance. Perhaps in a future, oppression-free utopia,
we will regard all rapes as vanishingly rare, unpredictable
aberrations.
I should note that I am
sympathetic to that position, though not because I agree with it. I
think it is partly a result of the natural desire to dismiss MRAs as
the misogynists they are, especially when women are attempting
reasonable discussion of difficult subjects to be confronted with
cries of “what about the men”.
Most responses are in
fact more sophisticated than that, hinting at some subtle interplays,
potential contrasts between the male and female experience, and ways
in which the male experience can be tied into a structural analysis.
I think, though, that the development of these ideas is held back by
an insufficiently rigorous evaluation of our established position. It
is customary to preface these discussions with a disclaimer along the
lines of “rape/DV is overwhelmingly a gendered phenomenon, but...”,
which implies an acceptance of the 'anomalous and rare' view, even
when followed by a more complex argument.
But what does it mean
for an issue to be 'gendered'? Is a simple majority of victims on one
side enough? It is hard to think of a phenomenon that doesn't tend to
affect men and women in different ways or at different rates, or at
least for which a case for different experiences could be made. It
can't be so simple. What about a larger, more significant majority?
If a sufficiently large majority is the criterion we apply, we face
two new problems when evaluating that majority.
Just how is it that we
are defining rape (etc., but I will concentrate on rape from here on.
Similar issues present themselves in respect of DV)? Historically, rape tended
to be considered a property crime, committed against the male
'owners' of women, an act of vandalism. The slightly more enlightened
view was of a specific act of violence, with consideration of the
mechanics of the act, committed against an invariably weaker victim.
Modern discourse has shifted this definition in part to one centred
around consent. This process of change is incomplete, however. The
notion that rape can occur inside of an established relationship is
now commonly accepted (even if some on the nominal left refuse to
accept this position), as is the position that consent can be
instantly revoked, that consent depends on informed knowledge. And we
have seen a partial rejection of prescriptive, mechanical
definitions.
Our empirical knowledge
then, might be poor. The law retains obsolete definitions, and there
is the potential for any number of other factors to skew our
perceptions. The US Center for Disease Control 2010 National Domestic Violence Survey uses the formal, legalistic definition of rape to report that:
Nearly
1 in 5 women (18.3%) and 1 in 71 men (1.4%) in the United States have
been raped at some time in their lives
By a consent-based
definition, both of these statistics are inevitably underestimated –
They exclude scenarios without the threat of use of physical force.
The CDC additionally reports that:
An
estimated 13% of women and 6% of men have experienced sexual coercion
in their lifetime (i.e., unwanted sexual penetration after being
pressured in a nonphysical way)
Approximately
1 in 21 men (4.8%) reported that they were made to penetrate
someone else during their lifetime;
The italicised phrase
in the final quote is a troubling one. Everything above quite clearly
belongs inside of a consent-based definition of rape, but I will
admit to a feeling of reticence when placing the final one there.
We should keep in mind
the limitations of these figures – We well know the factors that
influence the propensity of women to report rape, and it is not
inconceivable that these operate on men in unpredictable ways. I
don't therefore wish to manipulate these figures to arrive at any
conclusions regarding relative rates of victimhood. I do intend to
show that the majority that doubtless exists is perhaps not as
overwhelming as we might first think, and that our conception of what
constitutes rape should continue to evolve.
I contend that the
gendering of sexual violence lies not solely in who constitutes the
bulk of victims or perpetrators, but in a set of unspoken
assumptions about men and masculinity, women and femininity, and
consent. Penetration, victimhood and consent are tied to
femininity, penetrating and dominance to masculinity. The various
possible permutations of aggressor and victim either operate within
this paradigm, or transgress it, with consequences for how the act,
and the victim, is perceived (There is a great deal to be said about
the trans, and non-binary experience that I haven't covered here, for
lack of sufficient knowledge).
There remains an
unwillingness to characterise certain rapes as rape. Many of the
typical victim blaming rape myths have subtly altered corollaries.
Convenient euphemisms are employed: hazing,
Because you know what he needs. Victim blaming operates in distinct ways, with victims' sex,
sexuality and the sex of their attacker affecting precisely how they
are to be blamed. Men refusing consent to women are figures of fun,
because it is inconceivable that they could refuse sex, or because
they are unable to overpower their attacker. Gay men raped by men
have their sexuality to blame. Both are likely to
experience physiological arousal against their wishes, as women are,
and this complicates matters for survivors, who may be confused by their own physical reactions. Erectile function and orgasm operates
independently of desire in men as it does in women, but this is not fully accepted.
Straight men might not actually be straight. Prison rape of course
remains one of the few sub-genres of rape joke acceptable in polite
company.
Understanding the way
victim's sex/gender affects the influence of rape culture (being a
culture in which the value of consent is disregarded, devalued,
assumed, or explained away, in subtly different ways depending on the
permutation of both aggressors' and victims' sex/gender) on their
experience can only help us to deepen our understanding of rape
culture in general.
But what practical
implications does this have? Very little, except an openness to the
heterogeneity of experiences. Framing our discussions in terms of
'violence against women', except where a particular discussion
warrants an exclusive focus, fails to reflect the complexity of that
violence (and I want to repeat, as bad as this is for men, for trans
and non-binary persons, it is worse). Worse, it can have the effect
of isolating particular types of victim or denying the validity of
their experience, in the same way that rape culture does. Rape
culture does not oppress directly, patriarchy does not oppress
directly. Oppression is mediated through individuals and social
structures.
The second requirement
is of course more obvious. We must persist in challenging rape
culture at every turn. Far from being the cause of male victimhood
(or at least a passive, malevolent observer) as the MRAs would have
it, feminism provides the conceptual tools for understanding it.
The third, and most
important, is that men, especially but not exclusively, and
especially those with experience of sexual violence, must work better
to articulate and theorise their experiences within a feminist,
theoretical framework.
1Although
perhaps it should be covered at some point – the left is clearly
far from immune from this.
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